I got beef with imposter syndrome. I’m not buying its BS.
What does it mean to have imposter syndrome?
You’re either an imposter or you’re not.
No?
What is imposter syndrome?
Imposter syndrome means you FEEL like an imposter.
But why?
Are you misrepresenting yourself for fraudulent gain?
Are you lying about who you are and what you can do?
No? Then you’re not an imposter.
Yes? Then you don’t have Imposter Syndrome. You have an integrity problem.
If you’re worried about having Imposter Syndrome, it’s highly unlikely that you’re an actual fraud. Frauds don’t have ethics.
What's operating under the surface here, as is often the case, is our old reliable friend, Unworthiness.
When we say we have Imposter Syndrome, or Fraud Complex, what we mean is that we feel like we don’t deserve our current positive standing - a particular title, financial gain, status, or praise bestowed upon us.
We fear if others find out who we really are, all the mistakes we’ve made, or what the rest of our lives look like, how late we sleep on our days off, or that I ate the entire pan of brownies I made to take to the party and had to grab something at the store on the way, they’ll change their minds about us.
We’re afraid they’ll see that we’re not good enough.
Here’s the thing.
This isn’t a thing.
If you have a boss, or clients, customers, followers, fans that are thrilled with your work, your art, or your contribution, they’ve already decided that what you are offering is good enough, probably more than good enough, probably really great.
It’s not your call what other people appreciate, or how much. They get to decide what it’s worth to them. And there isn’t anyone else you need to be, or any measure of “earning it” that they need from you.
I remember when I signed my first big-for-me client that happily paid me upfront for six months. It was so easy it scared the hell out of me. I wasn’t full-time in my business yet, and my few other clients were paying month-to-month. What if she found out I was still walking dogs on the side to get by? What if she knew how disorganized I was? …or how much I procrastinated? …or what a giant mess I’d made of my life so many times in the past?
She did not care. All that mattered was, could I help her? Yes. I could. And I did.
No matter what else was going on in my life, I showed up hellbent to deliver as the coach she hired…and more.
I didn’t need to be worthy of her business, only her trust. That part was easy. I wasn’t lying. I wasn’t any kind of imposter, and I’ve always been honest with my clients about my own struggles. It’s part of the work. It's why they connect with me.
You don’t need to earn the right to offer what you have to give. It’s yours to give. …nor do you need to be worthy of accepting any gift that someone else genuinely wants to give you. It’s theirs to give.
Imposter syndrome is an imposter of a syndrome. It’s another farce to keep you from understanding who you truly are and moving forward on your purposeful path. You can let this one go. It was never really there to begin with.
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